Relationships (and Marriage) - Part 4

Ok so what should I look for in a relationship? What type of people will help me be the person God wants me to be.

Remember these and ask yourself if someone has these qualities and if you are willing to be the same to them.

The person must have:

1. Godly character. Their beliefs and their behaviour will be consistent with the word of God.
2. Committed to you. A person who is committed in helping you become your best in life.
3. Genuinely loves you. They love you because you are you. Not because you are only there for them and they not for you, that is selfish and unGodly. They genuinely love you for who you were when they first met you and not how they picture you in the future according to how they want you to dress, speak, walk and live. If you change your look, dress, talk, lifestyle for this person, then it is not genuine, especially if they allow it! Genuinely loving someone means you accept them for who they are and you want to push them forward to be that greater person, where God wants them to be.
4. Always looking out for your best interest. You will be doing the same for them!
5. Wise counsel. Godly counsel, their advice is for your best interest, no matter how much the truth hurts. If it is according to God’s word, then it is wise. They are honest with us even when it hurts. It would be foolish to link your life to someone whose opinion or judgement you won’t even consider! What’s the point?
6. Faithful to you, when you’re right or wrong, when everyone else has left you, your friend is still there and says to you “Hey buddy I’m here for you through thick and thin.”
7. Give them selves to you. Their time, interest, efforts, willing to help someone in times of need.
8. Prays for you! Not “God bless him.” We need people who can pray for us “God convict him, God show him the truth.” Is there anyone in your life that prays for you at the moment, everyday? The greatest asset you and I have on the face of this Earth is when people call our name to our Father, to the living God! Asking on your behalf. Sacrificing their prayers in order to pray for you. What does that say about that person?

Are the relationships you are in, intimate and otherwise, do they match the things on the list you have just been given? Are they building you up? Encouraging you? Matching the items on the list? Are these relationships trustworthy? Are you becoming a better person? You make the choice.

Do you have a say, opinion in your relationships? Are you worth something to the other person? Or are you living only to impress the other person constantly and receiving nothing in return?

Can you confront the other person and be honest with them?

All good relationships begin in one place. That’s JESUS. Personal, intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. You recognise you are full of faults and sins, disobedience and rebellion. You believe the testimony of the word of God that Jesus went to the cross and paid your sin debt in full and if you ask him to forgive your sins, he will forgive you and cleanse you. You will grow in your relationship with Him, trusting him as your Savior, this is how you begin to develop good, healthy, Godly relationships with people.