Relationships (and Marriage) - Part 3

Negative relationships

These are the other kind of relationships, not positive influences in our lives.

They:

1. Dim our vision. They cause us to be in denial. “I know this is what I should be doing BUT…..”
2. Discourage us from truly and really wanting to be that Godly person.
3. Drag us down. “Well ok, I guess that’s not what God really wanted for my life” when you actually know it was. Or you say “Well I guess I will never probably become anything.” They derail you in your thinking until you give up. It defeats you.

Solutions

1. Pray for God to change the other person(s). They won’t always change, when someone doesn’t want to change, very seldom will God make them change, its free will.
2. You can give up your goals and dreams. You can give up your desire to be a Godly person and the things God wants you to achieve.
3. Separate yourself from that relationship. This could be a job you are in, a loving relationship with a person, a friendship or maybe you are married to someone.

You may be in a relationship with a person who does not have your goals, not interested in your life, your future but only in them selves. I am NOT saying you should divorce a person because of that. I am saying you should FACE that relationship and deal with that relationship. I am saying God can take the most difficult relationships and when we put our faith and trust in Him we can endure far more than we could ever realise we could.
4. We can persevere and determine to be the person that God wants you to be and you can achieve the things God wants you to achieve by His help and His strength no matter who you live with or what the relationship is. You are trusting in God and not giving up in failure. Your trust in God that He will use all the criticism, difficulty and hardship to make you a Godly man and Godly woman.

But, of course, it would be far better to have the right relationship. So, before you get married you need to sit with the other person and work out:

- What are their goals in life?
- Where they are headed in life?
- What do they want to achieve in life?
- What do they want to accomplish in life?

Some will say that “I want to marry and be happy and have kids.” Well ok that doesn’t take too long does it? Then what? Kids go to school and now you are a grandparent, now what?

You need to sit down and do some long, serious, Godly hard thinking and find out who this person is. What are their goals, where they are headed, why they want to marry? If you can’t say with a whole Godly heart, listening to God that I do believe I can link myself with this person because we have mutual goals and we both want to achieve what God wants us to achieve. We are committed to each other till death.

We want God to accomplish His purpose in our life, we want to build up each other and comfort each other and stimulate each other, motivate each other and all the other others! Not just “I think I am in love.” That’s not enough, there has got to be something stronger and deeper, a foundation. Built on what? The truth of the word of God, when it is built on this, you have a far better chance of making it work. Why? Because God lives inside of you. How? Whatever circumstance, situation and relationship, if you are to respond to Him in the correct fashion, He will turn it to your good no matter what, no matter what!