Relationships (and Marriage) - Part 1

How do you become the person God wants you to be?

The problem is that most people look and wander for something and can never figure out what it is. The reason why those people will never achieve what God wants them to be is because they are looking in the wrong places and making the wrong choices. The choices we make in life determine whether or not we find happiness, success or failure, contentment and triumph over our adversities.

We need the right relationships in our life, if you and I are going to be the person God wants us to be.

Relationships are what life is all about, relationships with God and with each other. We don’t measure the value of those relationships be it positive or negative. Most of the time we might be in a relationship for a long time and never think about it. We all have relationships, with our friends and families.

God said in the Garden of Eden that it is not good for man to be alone, he needs a partner, that is a relationship. God has made us dependent on Him but also to need each other and when we talk about relationships, we talk about connections. That is, you are connected with people, emotionally as well. The issue is what kind of connections are they?

Do I have relationships that I believe will help me become who God wants me to be? Do I have relationships in my life that do not promote me to be who God wants me to be? Or do these relationships make me slip away from knowing God and being who He wants me to be?

The truth is that we won't make it anywhere in this life alone. We need each other to reach the place God wants us to be. Remember, man cannot build his house alone, he needs others to help him.

There are only a few things we accomplish on our own, but we are all dependent on each other. That is God’s will.

Noah had great relationships with his family in order to convince them to help him build the ark. They didn’t know what an ark was and especially didn’t see the purpose of it since it had not rained back in that day. Noah’s relationship with his family helped him convince them that God had commanded him to build an ark.

God’s plan for us is to build Godly relationships during our lifetime.

The kind of relationships we need to be where God wants us to be:

• Build our confidence. In God and ourselves. (1 Thessalonians 5:11 "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.")


• Motivate us, to do our best.


• Encourage us in those moments that we are discouraged.


• Stimulate us to greater creativity. See within us the potential we have.


• Energise us when we are weary. How? If I feel a little down, ill call my friend and say “lets go and eat” I won't be so much interested in eating, only to be in their company to listen to them and talk to them so that my problems seem distant.


• Comfort us when we are hurting. We need someone else’s strength, empathy or sympathy.


• Defend us or criticise us. The more Godly you live the more criticism you will receive. We need those people who will defend us, who know us for who we are, believe in us, know the truth about us, not what others believe about us.


• Forgive us. We need those people who will forgive us when we falter and sin. God forgives us, but we need those strong people who can forgive us.People who love us when we are unlovely. They understand who we are even in our bad moments.

God loves us when we are unlovely. We are grateful He doesn’t only love us when we are good. We need those people who will accept us as we are.